New Baby Boundaries

One of the first lessons we hope to teach Lainey as her family, is what it means to HAVE a family. She has never known a mommy or daddy. She's had, instead, a steady rotation of kind nannies. She has had good care, but not parents, who are consistantly there for her every day. At first, she won't know the different between us and any other nanny she's had.

Teaching her what it means to have a mommy and daddy will take time. But you can help!

To keep it simple, we have just two primary guidelines:

1. First, you are welcome to talk to her or give her a hug, but for about our first month or so after we are home, we (BJ and I) will be the only ones to hold her. Sorry, we're not hogging her - we're just trying to make up for lost time and build a new bond with her. And again, reinforce that we are here to stay, not just two more caregivers who might be gone tomorrow.
   
   
2. Second, we will be the only ones to feed her or giver her something to drink. If she comes up to you and asks for a bite or a drink, please redirect her to us to help her. This will help reinforce to her that as her parents, we can be counted on to meet her needs.

Over time, we will of course relax the rules. But we ask that you please respect them as we nurture our relationship and work to create a strong and clear bond with our baby girl!

Thank you so much for all of your love, prayers and support!!! :)